What do women want. What do we want ladies. What is it that
we ask for. Hmm….let’s see. It’s actually
very simple. We want :
FOR MEN TO JUST…..GET IT!!!!!!! *snap snap snap*
Pay attention!! Just please, I beg you, GET IT! (Ok, 99%
of the male readers are asking themselves, “wait,
get what? What is she talking about?”) Point proven.
*sigh* Woo-sah it out ladies….just woo-sah it out.
I've decided to grace you with a topic of why women always
complain that men just don't get it. Women complain that
men just don’t get “it” and men complain
that women just aren’t straight up. They do not understand
why we just keep it in and “expect” them to
just understand. In their eyes, we’re just nagging.
“Wanh wanh, wanh wanh, wanh wahhhh.” That is
all they hear. Men can not read between the lines. I repeat….they
can NOT read between the lines. Oh wait, let me rephrase.
All HETEROSEXUAL men cannot read between the lines. Now
that that's clear, we must resolve such a situation.
Men just don’t get it.
When women come home and have the need to vent or gossip
(and yes, ALL women need to vent/gossip so please don’t
fool yourselves in thinking your woman is an exception because
if you honestly think that, you’re a doof. And if
your woman keeps insisting that she just doesn’t need
to vent/gossip AT ALL, then you’re already a lost
case. She’s venting/gossiping to someone else!) LET…….HER…….VENT/TALK.
We just want you to sit there and nod and yeah and of course
honey. That is all. None of this advice, I think you should’ve
done this, you should’ve done that nonsense. Just
let us tell the story from the beginning to the end. No
interruptions. The other trick is to not look distracted
or bored. Just look interested. Is that asking for too much?
I mean, omg, a whole 10 minutes! Come on, take one for the
team. And who are we kidding, we know you men love gossip
too. I see you eyeing my US Weekly and In Touch. Uh huh.
Men just don’t get it.
When women say this, in their minds it's common sense.
If the woman is in a bad mood, don't bring up unnecessary
arguments....common sense, no? If the woman sits there with
an annoyed look and answers, "Nothing's wrong ok?"....something
is definitely wrong....common sense, no? I mean for crying
out loud, if the woman looks mad, she's mad....common sense,
no? No. Especially in the eyes of men. They're creatures
of abnormally low functions of something simple called 'sense.'
They are oblivious to what we think is obvious. We have
to remember....they're tunnel visioned. As difficult and
frustrating as that is, it's something we can not beat.
Men : Come on now! You can NOT be as inconsiderate and
senseless as you act sometimes. Just because she says everything's
okay doesn't necessarily mean it is all the time. Why can't
we be more straight up? Because we're not heartless beings.
If something is frustrating us to the point where we have
to act like it's okay.....it's pretty big. If we came out
and just told you what it was that you did wrong in our
eyes, we'd be looked upon as overreacting or being closed-minded.
It's a lose-lose situation because what we think is important,
you don't.
A primary example.....I go into your room and we're chillin
and I notice that your blanket has you and your ex's name
engraved on the corner. WTH?!?! As upsetting as that is,
I'll try my best to cover up my frustration. I jokingly
mention it later on and his reply, "It's just a blanket.
Functional use." Um. Ok. Come again? Are you KIDDING
me?!? It's of complete sentimental value and you sit there
expecting me to be okay with that?!! Wow, that's just expecting
too much. A woman with that big of a heart deserves a standing
ovation (oh I see all the single women right now thinking,
"I wouldn't care....after all, it's just a blanket").....oh,
how I used to think like thee. Not quite so pretty when
you experience it. Men, you have to understand that the
only reason why she'd be so upset with it is because she
holds you so dear to her heart. She wants to be it. As selfish
as that sounds...it's true. Humans seek attention and if
the significant other cannot give such primary focus, who
can?
(Aside from God of course...), Just think about how you
winced when she pulled out that piece of jewelry her ex
bought her. *innocent face* “What? It’s just
for functional use. Totally for the sake of matching my
outfit honey,” Yeah, NOW you get it.Better communication
is key. Duh. We've known that for decades, but what does
that exactly mean? Compromise. Men, try to be more understanding....ok,
lost u there already huh? Understanding = It's not what
you hear, but what you take in. It's not what you see, but
what you feel. Women, be more up front. As heartless as
it seems and as much as you don't want to be seen as the
overreacting type, let him know if it really bothers you.
Now, I'm not talking about telling him EVERYTHING that bothers
you because then you’re just asking for fights, but
things of significant importance.
I'm not going to lie and say that it's easy because it
sure as hell isn't, but with work and compliance, things
will work out. (For those who are sitting there thinking,
I'd never do that or I'd never overreact like that......that's
why you're single. Get back to me when you're in a relationship
and then we'll see what's up. Trust me, I used to think
that way too. Who doesn't want to be the cool, laid back
partner?
Every relationship takes work regardless of its health.
A relationship is like going to the gym. No matter how much
you go and no matter how great you look, if you stop working
at it, you will soon face the consequences. So with that,
good luck to all. You ken doo eet!!
*Oh, what happened with the blanket situation? You better
buh-lieve I made him strip and replace it. Gotta get your
man in check! Uh-huh! Ok, let’s pray that my beloved
never reads this. =D)
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